![Little Happier: The Right Thing to Say When Someone Makes a Bad Mistake.](https://megaphone.imgix.net/podcasts/f2faeb58-47b4-11ee-bb25-bbb465e264d1/image/219998.png?ixlib=rails-4.3.1&max-w=3000&max-h=3000&fit=crop&auto=format,compress)
I feel a tremendous intellectual and emotional satisfaction when I hear someone give exactly the right response in a difficult situation, so I’m always on the alert to hear examples of people knowing the right thing to say.
I remember one incident quite clearly, though it happened many years ago.
My husband Jamie and I were working on a side project with several other people. After we all received a certain email, one person—our closest friend in the group—meant to reply to the message just to Jamie and me, with a somewhat mean comment about the larger group. Alas, he made that classic mistake and hit “reply all.”
He immediately sent a note of apology to the people who were surely very annoyed to see the message, and then sent another note to Jamie and me to lament what had happened. When I saw his email, I sat at my desk, trying to figure out how to respond in a way that would make him feel better. I knew he must feel terrible about this mistake, and I wanted to comfort him, but I couldn’t think of a single thing to write.
But in a flash, my husband sent back what seemed to me to be a simple and perfect response: “We’ve all done it.”
It was comforting because it was true. Reply all–we’ve all done it. Now, often, when I’m around someone who has screwed up, I remind them, “We’ve all done it.”