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- May 27, 2015
# Podcast 14: Cultivate a Shrine, Know What’s Different about You, and Fight Hostess Neurosis.
Happier with Gretchen Rubin
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Happier with Gretchen Rubin: Shrines, Chronotypes, and Hostess Neurosis
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EPISODE NOTES
It’s Wednesday– time for the next installment of “[**Happier with Gretchen Rubin**](https://itunes.apple.com/podcast/happier-with-gretchen-rubin/id969519520?mt=2&ls=1)[**.**](https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/happier-with-gretchen-rubin/id969519520?mt=2)“
#### **Updates**
We have listeners in *192 countries*! Zoikes. And we’ve heard from a lot of people who have successfully used the **“one-minute rule”** that we discussed in the [**first episode**](https://staging.gretchenrubin.com/podcast/1-welcome-to-the-happier-podcast/). Great to hear that it’s working for people.
#### **Try This at Home**
Cultivate a shrine. As promised, here are photos of Elizabeth’s Shrine to Mugs and my Shrine to Smell.
If you’d like to read more about shrines, check out [**Happier at Home**](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0307886794/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=0307886794&linkCode=as2&tag=thehappproj-20&linkId=57FOPC3634VXAVIE).
#### **[Better Than Before](http://staging.gretchenrubin.com/books/before-after/before-after/) Habit Strategy/Know Yourself Better**
**Use the “[Strategy of Distinctions](https://staging.gretchenrubin.com/articles/video-for-habits-the-strategy-of-self-knowledge/)” to figure out the habits that will work for *you***. Which might be *very different* from what works for other people. The book I mention is [**Internal Time: Chronotypes, Social Jet Lag, and Why You’re So Tired**](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0674065859/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=0674065859&linkCode=as2&tag=thehappproj-20&linkId=D27RNOP43PHQ4MZZ) by Till Roenneberg.
#### **Listener Question**
“How do you stick to your habits for the long run?”
#### **Gretchen’s Demerit**
Gretchen confesses to **“hostess neurosis,”** which is our family term for the irritable, demanding frame of mind that descends when it’s time to act as a hostess.
#### **Elizabeth’s Gold Star**
Elizabeth gives a gold star to **Jeff and to the website [CaringBridge](http://www.caringbridge.org/?gclid=COC_38PB4sUCFVMXHwodqW4Agg).** Elizabeth’s longtime friend Suzanne is dealing with cancer, and her husband Jeff is doing a great job of keeping everyone updated on CaringBridge.
How do you like the photo? That’s Elizabeth’s back yard in Encino. Orange trees!
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